Resolving Interpersonal Conflict

Conflict is part and parcel of our lives.  It is inevitable and one should learn from the mistakes that happened.  It happens anywhere and anytime – at work, at school and even at home. It is so common that one never realize the valid reasons behind a conflict and how one can actually avoid it.  

Conflicts often arise due to misunderstanding, miscommunication and also because of the different beliefs in life. Without handling it properly, relationships can be the real victim, especially when emotions set in. This reminds me of a conflict that occurred during my secondary school years.

                I was very active participating in various kinds of co-curricular activities in my secondary school. I spent most of my time after school getting involved in different projects. It felt wonderful at first, as I had the chance to mingle around with new friends and learn different skills.  As a result, I valued those commitments highly as I worked hard for it. One afternoon, my team mates and I were supposed to set up the venue for the Secondary One orientation. More than half of them failed to turn up. I was frustrated. Coincidentally, my good friend, Aaron came up to me in tears.

“Greg, can I talk to you now? I need your help.”

I was so busy that I hardly lifted up my head and replied, “What is it that’s so important? Can’t you see I am busy?”

Immediately after that, Aaron left without a word. Only then did I realize my mistake.  I did not intend to turn Aaron away.  I needed more time to do my work.  However, due to my attitude, Aaron was unhappy. I almost jeopardized our friendship. Although both of us made it up after that, this incident always reminds me to communicate properly to avoid conflicts.